Lisa Nigro sharing the benefits of criticism along her path
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Julie Fedelli has a group in Chicago that heard how Lisa managed to do great things in the world–ending up getting an award from Obama recently.
Hi Soul Sisters! Thank you for coming to hear me speak last night it was so great to hear about all the good you all are doing in the world! It makes my heart sing. As I said yesterday I do quite a bit of inner work so I can stay as focused as possible in my everyday and I found this great article that I wanted to share with you. I had told you about how I was told “No” many times along my journey. Many didn’t believe in my vision and the article below expresses things that I learned during my journey. I didn’t write it. The author is mentioned at the end but I certainly lived it and I know many of you have too. So I thought i would share it with you. Blessings to you all…….Lisa
The Benefits of Criticism:
Personal Growth
1. Looking for seeds of truth in criticism encourages humility. It’s not easy to take an honest look at yourself and your weaknesses, but you can only grow if you’re willing to try.
2. Learning from criticism allows you to improve. Almost every critique gives you a tool to more effectively create the tomorrow you visualize.
3. Criticism opens you up to new perspectives and new ideas you may not have considered. Whenever someone challenges you, they help expand your thinking.
4. Your critics give you an opportunity to practice active listening. This means you resist the urge to analyze in your head, planning your rebuttal, and simply consider what the other person is saying.
5. You have the chance to practice forgiveness when you come up against harsh critics. Most of us carry around stress and frustration that we unintentionally misdirect from time to time.
Emotional Benefits
6. It’s helpful to learn how to sit with the discomfort of an initial emotional reaction instead of immediately acting or retaliating. All too often we want to do something with our feelings—generally not a great idea!
7. Criticism gives you the chance to foster problem solving skills, which isn’t always easy when you’re feeling sensitive, self-critical, or annoyed with your critic.
8. Receiving criticism that hits a sensitive spot helps you explore unresolved issues.Maybe you’re sensitive about your intelligence because you’re holding onto something someone said to you years ago—something you need to release.
9. Interpreting someone else’s feedback is an opportunity for rational thinking—sometimes, despite a negative tone, criticism is incredibly useful.
10. Criticism encourages you to question your instinctive associations and feelings; praise is good, criticism is bad. If we recondition ourselves to see things in less black and white terms, there’s no stop to how far we can go!
Improved Relationships
11. Criticism presents an opportunity to choose peace over conflict. Oftentimes, when criticized our instinct is to fight, creating unnecessary drama. The people around us generally want to help us, not judge us.
12. Fielding criticism well helps you mitigate the need to be right. Nothing closes an open mind like ego—bad for your personal growth, and damaging for relationships.
13. Your critics give you an opportunity to challenge any people-pleasing tendencies.Relationships based on a constant need for approval can be draining for everyone involved. It’s liberating to let people think whatever they want—they’re going to do it anyway.
14. Criticism gives you the chance to teach people how to treat you. If someone delivers it poorly, you can take this opportunity to tell them, “I think you make some valid points, but I would receive them better if you didn’t raise your voice.”
15. Certain pieces of criticism teach you not to sweat the small stuff. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter that your boyfriend thinks you load the dishwasher “wrong.”
Time Efficiency
16. The more time you spend dwelling about what someone said, the less time you have to do something with it.
17. If you improve how you operate after receiving criticism, this will save time and energy in the future. When you think about from that perspective—criticism as a time saver—it’s hard not to appreciate it!
18. Fostering the ability to let go of your feelings and thoughts <http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-have-more-fun-in-life-keep-your-thoughts-from-pulling-you-down/> about being critiqued can help you let go in other areas of your life. Letting go of worries, regrets, stresses, fears, and even positive feelings helps you root yourself in the present moment. Mindfulness is always the most efficient use of time.
19. Criticism reinforces the power of personal space. Taking 10 minutes to process your emotions, perhaps by writing in a journal, will ensure you respond well. And responding the well the first time prevents one critical comment from dominating your day.
20. In some cases, criticism teaches you how to interact with a person, if they’re negative or hostile, for example. Knowing this can save you a lot of time and stress in the future.
Self Confidence
21. Learning to receive false criticism—feedback that has no constructive value—without losing your confidence is a must if you want to do big things in life. The more attention your work receives, the more criticism you’ll have to field.
22. When someone criticizes you, it shines a light on your own insecurities. If you secretly agree that you’re lazy, you should get to the root of that. Why do you believe that—and what can you do about it?
23. Learning to move forward after criticism, even if you don’t feel incredibly confident, ensures no isolated comment prevents you from seizing your dreams. Think of it as separating the wheat from the chaff; takes what’s useful, leave the rest, and keep going!
24. When someone else appraises your harshly, you have an opportunity to monitor your internal self-talk. Research indicates up to 80% of our thoughts are negative. Take this opportunity to monitor and change your thought processes so you don’t drain and sabotage yourself!
25. Receiving feedback well reminds you it’s OK to have flaws—imperfection is part of being human. If you can admit weakness and work on them without getting down on yourself, you’ll experience far more happiness, peace, enjoyment, and success.
We are all perfectly imperfect, and other people may notice that from time to time. We may even notice in it each other.
Somehow accepting that is a huge weight off my mind.
Lori Deschene from Tinybuddha.com
The Quickening
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http://www.realitysandwich.com/acceleration_evolution
‘The Quickening‘ is more than a warning: it is an invitation to deal with upcoming world changes with “relative grace and ease”. This short film relates Carl Calleman’s research on the Mayan calendar, which cites an end date of October 28, 2011 rather than the more popular December 21, 2012.
“You have been telling people that this is the Eleventh Hour.
Now you must go back and tell the people that this is The Hour.”
With this possibly misattributed quote, the film begins its exploration of Calleman’s assertion that the 9th wave of the Mayan underworld – that of Unity Consciousness – ends on October 28, 2011. As the ninth wave progresses, humanity gains the ability to experience oneness more deeply. The end of the ninth wave results in the realization of all nine underworlds by every living creature on Earth. The film describes this as a sense of unity with everything that exists – we will be able to experience all life as we experience ourselves.
The tone of ‘The Quickening’ differs quite a bit from your run-of-the-mill 2012 prediction. It does not appear to function simply to spread fear and panic or indulge in conspiracy theory for its own sake. Rather, it seems to convey intelligent and compassionate advice, relating information in a calm and rational manner. The film lends strong emphasis to the changeable nature of prophecy: we are told what we need to hear most, not what will undoubtedly happen. Prophecies exist to facilitate a shift in consciousness, assisting our evolution. They offer us a choice of how to proceed and are by no means inevitable.
Centered on the importance of faith, the film offers an optimistic look at a turbulent world. It is a reminder of our strongest qualities as a species – empathy, altruism and the ability to perceive unity in all creation. While the film’s information about Comet Elenin is certainly questionable in the eyes of the scientific establishment, it still offers significant new ways of perceiving reality. It reminds us that everything that exists – even people we consider ‘evil’ – essentially serves the divine and urges us to recognize this and to focus on helping others. It prioritizes this approach as being instrumental in inducing a consciousness shift in humanity that will finally enable us to collectively achieve oneness.
Ann Wright told us about Jeju Island
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Having Ann Wright visit the Dragonfly was an honor and a joy. She was also very informative!
We learned about the history of the Jeju Islanders–30,000 innocent people killed:
http://wolcottwheeler2.blogspot.com/2007/01/1948-cheju-do-civil-war-how-to-kill.html
Ann was inspirational–telling us how the islanders want the island for peace, not war. They are indefatigable in their fight.
Out of this worldnews from Alfred Webre
Barbara – Aloha! Thank you.
As to Nibiru, etc., please read the following:
Andromeda Council Update on Elenin, brown dwarf, Nibiru, earth changes, 4D Earth
http://www.examiner.com/exopolitics-in-seattle/andromeda-council-update-on-elenin-brown-dwarf-nibiru-earth-changes-4d-earth
YOU TUBE: Andromeda Council Update on Elenin, brown dwarf, Nibiru, earth changes, 4D Earth
Part I
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGeXb1gfTbE
Part II
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7S5XL3RVoYY
Alfred 
Brave people protest US school of murderers
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Call Obama’s office and support these brave individuals who draw attention to this school responsible for overturning South American democracies.
http://www.soaw.org/news
No to arctic oil–precious penguin footage
http://www.youtube.com/embed/SkY03n0_sD8 <http://www.youtube.com/embed/SkY03n0_sD8>
Why does Elenin get deleted?
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Twice now I have seen the big dwarf star on video. I send it to people and then…poof…it is no longer on the net.
Is this because this information is being censored? How would you behave if you were to see this huge thing hurling thru space toward us? Might you prepare for earth changes we may not know how to predict? Might you want to take care of your family? Might you want to get out of the city and be where you can grow food and be with a beloved community?
Noam Chompsky After 9/11–Was War the Only Option?
http://www.truth-out.org/after-911-was-war-only-option/1315582873
over 1000 arrested over Keystone pipeline
http://www.alternet.org/newsandviews/?akid=7518.147707.h8wTfJ&id=660627&rd=1&t=27
Don’t let Big Oil destroy 160 million migratory birds
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It’s time for President Obama to intervene — before it’s too late.
His State Department is rushing toward approval of the disastrous Keystone XL tar sands pipeline, which would enrich oil companies by transporting the world’s dirtiest oil 2,000 miles from Canada to Texas.
URGENT ACTION IS NEEDED HERE!
The pipeline will drive horrific destruction of songbird habitat in the Boreal forest . . . rev up excessive global warming pollution . . . and threaten the drinking water of millions of Americans with toxic spills.
The Keystone XL is a fossil fuel nightmare — NOT the clean energy future that President Obama promised America.
Call on President Obama to intervene immediately and reject the Keystone XL pipeline.
http://www.nrdconline.org/site/Advocacy?cmd=display&page=UserAction&id=2377
The President promised the American people a ‘robust review’ of the tar sands pipeline, but Secretary of State Hillary Clinton has not delivered it.
We’re not surprised. A robust review would reveal that this entire scheme is a boon to Big Oil and a disaster-in-the-making for everyone else. It would destroy the myth that America needs this pipeline to ensure a supply of ‘friendly’ oil from Canada.
Bringing more of this ‘friendly’ oil to the U.S. will destroy millions of migratory birds and their ancient forest habitat . . . turbo-charge global warming . . . raise gas prices in the Midwest . . . and stands to poison wildlife habitats and drinking water in the American heartland.
With friends like that, who needs enemies?
What’s worse, the tar sands pipeline will practically slam the door on a clean energy future for America. It will lock us into the dirtiest, riskiest, most destructive oil on the planet — for decades to come.
Help us prevail on President Obama before it’s too late. Ask him to order Secretary of State Clinton to deliver the full review we were promised and to reject a project that is so clearly against our national interest.
Tell the President there is no room for the world’s dirtiest oil in our clean energy future!
http://www.nrdconline.org/site/Advocacy?cmd=display&page=UserAction&id=2377
Sincerely,
Frances Beinecke
President
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